How to Teach Self Compassion for Kids

How to Teach Self Compassion for Kids

One of the most important lessons we can teach our students is ‘what is self compassion?’

Self-Compassion Definition

The definition that I use for self-compassion is when you treat yourself with kindness and care. It doesn’t change based on how you do in a certain task, how your week is going, or how you feel that day- with self-compassion, we fully accept ourselves as we are. I tell my students: you should never say something to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a good friend.

Self Compassion Activities

When I teach self compassion to my students, the first thing I will do is ask them a series of questions that look a bit like this:

The answers are usually a little something like “I would tell them that it is going to be okay.” “I will help them do better next time.” or “I will cheer them up.”

Then, I turn the tables on them a little bit, and ask them….

and almost immediately they figure out the point of the activity. I usually hear “ohhhh” or “aw man” or “wow” being mumbled under student’s breath, because they know- I am so much meaner to myself than I am to my friends. This self compassion activity guides us into the rest of our lesson.

Self Compassion Affirmations

The next self compassion activity that I LOVE to include in my lesson is the Flocabulary self-compassion video. If you don’t already use Flocabulary, I can’t recommend it enough- and, you can get a 30-day free trial. After we watch the video, I use the ‘read and respond’ to talk us through a discussion on self compassion.

Lastly, I work with students to create mantras for when they are having certain emotions. I have something similar in my Feelings and Emotions Vocabulary Workbook, and STAY TUNED. A mantras activity will be uploaded to TPT very soon.

Looking for other social-emotional learning activities? I got you covered! And check out this blog post on gratitude activities I do with my students.